Is it real?

Well this is my first blog. I know you as a reader may not know anything about me, but I can guarantee you have met someone like me- a unique person fallen victim to the same thing that has happened to many. I am not a complicated person, although my personality may be the most complex one has ever seen. A mixture of compassion with a competitive streak and love for a good challenge. Now i face the most challenging obstacle yet to come. One that can make a person be who they truly are. One that can break a person's spirit to the point where suicide is almost inept. One that can cause the greatest joy in any one individual's particular life time. Majority of people aren't accustomed to it. Some may not even realize what it really is. It is the most complex of all human emotions. It can cause someone to do things that he or she is not normally capable of accomplishing. It is the motive that fuels everyone's life. It is called "love". "Love" is truly an overused cliche. It has no meaning of today's society. It has been watered down by generations and generations of lies, manipulation and deception. It has become the word that everyone fears to hear. Yet after all the pain it has caused to many, it can be the warmth of someone's fire to cause euphoric state of being. Sometimes its just something that is understood to be said. It truly does not have any meaning. There is not a word that can capture the complete essence of this strongest of emotions. Unconditional love is something that can not be put into words. Its an expression. It can be shown with the smallest of things. It can be as simple as remembering what someone was saying a few months ago. It can also be as easy as "Good Morning" to the person you care most about. Not one thing can define love. It has too many shapes and forms to be categorized as one particular thing. It is one of the greatest of mysteries. Many question if it is real. Many believe that they understand it. It can be one of the hardest things to determine whether one may have or not. Just because one does all these small things, it does not mean that it is love. It must be done out of instinct and compassion. If there is no meaning behind it, then who may judge whether its real or not? Only you can determine whether you truly mean it or not. Do not be afraid of it, as most people are. Fear is what drives us to do the things instinctively. It is completely natural. It is built into our human genome. We can not decide when we fear things or not, but we are plenty able and aware of our own feelings deep inside our own souls causing us to determine our reactions. Many also believe that the heart has its own mind. I know I am one of those people. Most do not realize that sometimes what one wants may sacrifice something meaningful to him or her. It is completely alright to think logically and do what you "want", but I will guarantee that your heart will lead you in the right direction. You will end up on a path of life that can only be generated once. That path is called "fate", "destiny", "faith", "belief" and sometimes "love". But the question I would like to pose to you is: Is it real? or just a false pretense? I'll let you be the judge.

C.D. Bankey